Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 12, D on hold

[PsySara]

Things continue to move slowly. WH called his-parents and told them HE was divorcing ME. I was like, WTF? He told thmem it was because we fight too much. I calmly asked him why he lied and he said he was afraid of the embarrassment. Same sh!t, different day. Ho-hum. His mom calls him every day crying and asking him to stop the divorce as she is worried about how this will make the family look. See the trend here? Don't worry about actually working on the real problem, your son being a cheater, but let's save face at all cost. (His mother knows he cheated because I called her shortly after and told her)

WH has been served over a week now but he has not responded. He keeps putting off actually reading the papers. If he drags his feet more than 20 days after being served then I can move for default. It would be typical for him to just sit there and get passively divorced, he never did like actually doing things he would not directly benefit from.

We continue to be cordial and impersonal. We had a R discussion the other night where he stated he felt we were getting divorced because I could not forgive him for the affairs. I clarified it was because he refused to do any of the work to make me feel safe and he had told me bluntly he felt no remorse. He seemed surprised by this. I was surprised his skull was much thicker than my original estimate.