I get what you are trying to say LH19... to me however, sex with her is something i only want when there is love involved.

You see, i kinda have a bad history with getting "used" for sex when there's no other emotions in it, and that doesn't sit well with me anymore so i'm not having any more of that! I mean sure, when both parties KNOW it's just sex like a one night stand with a stranger, then fine, whatever floats your boat, but in this case where i still love this woman and she just wants to have sex but nothing else, it's a pretty lonely feeling for the left behind party that you don't really want!

As for the boundaries, yeah, i feel like i am not sure how far i wanna go since i still love her and don't want to push her away... which might be exactly what will happen if i am not clear with her. Well, my method has had SOME success at least since we are still not divorced so... wink the thing is figuring out where to head from here.

As for MLC and responsibility yeah... sure they're responsible for their actions but so are Teenagers and yet they're often making terrible decisions because they just don't know any better at that time in their lives.