New LBS, not sure if he's having LMC

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Update....

Yesterday with surgery went smooth. H showed up earlier than necessary to pick up me up. Kids hadn't left for school yet. Interesting observation about the kids though. I've known where my boys stand for weeks. They are angry at H, and after individual heart-to-hearts I had with each of the kids after last Sunday's blow-up, I learned that they are kind of glad H is not in at home anymore (due to their past interactions with him).

Anyway, even after last week's talk with D13, I still didn't know how she felt about everything, other than sad. But yesterday morning as she left for school, it gave me some insight. As she was walking out the door to the bus stop, she said, as she has every morning (and night as well) for YEARS, "love you mom". H was sitting right next to me, he asked her if she's walking to bust stop (5 minute walk), did she want a ride, she said no thanks, she'll walk. She left. As the door closed, H said "love you too". Of course she didn't hear him. D13 has had Daddy wrapped around her finger since birth, but she's never had the typical father-daughter relationship that usually goes along with that. She has always confided in me about everything, whenever she needed or wanted anything she would come to me, never Dad.

When s17 left an hour later for bus stop (Friday's are late start day at the high school), he pretty much did the same thing, said "love you mom", but nothing to H sitting next to me at the kitchen table.

Arrived at Kaiser for surgery on time, checked in, sat in waiting room for quite a bit for my time to be called back. H amazingly didn't get on his phone but twice, for just a minute each time. He comforted me, rubbed my back (I was very nervous, as I've never had any surgery, or any medical procedure other than an epidural during labor). After I got called back, he helped answer medical history questions. I had removed all my jewelry at home, but not my wedding rings, so he held on to them (I wasn't sure he'd be willing to put in his pocket, but in recovery that was the first thing he did was give them back to me). He did give me a kiss as they wheeled me back.

Minor heart complication as I was walking up, nurses and anesthesiologist were all concerned. Consulted with cardio, who said to call my regular doctor Monday ad have him order full work-up. Finally convinced the nurses to bring H back from waiting room as he would be worried what was taking so long. He was concerned about the heart thing and that I was hooked up to EKG. Discharged.

H drove me home, gave instructions to all the kids. Told me not to take s21 to bowling league today, and not lift a finger all weekend. I said thank you for being with me all day. He said if he hadn't been off work all work he would have called in sick to be with me.

Take it from me, no need to acknowledge the affair let alone contact them. I did this exact thing and it made my XW dig in deeper and go underground on her affairs! She became even more resentful towards me and my kids once I confronted her.

He said he would be up either Sunday evening, Monday or Tuesday. Guess he's got "busy" weekend with OW. But I didn't mention it. I'm sure OW's fiancé has told her that I know. But I am with dusty70, no need to acknowledge the affair. It won't do anything for me, at least right now.