This is what I want to say

25 this is an open forum and also intimate too, I expect it to be read by those who know me. The G has read my posts. I had to stop for a while in case it damaged my D fin hearing.

I think that's good, one day like V you might want to write your story in ordinary form, "going Alaskan", mine is "storm in DD cup"..........

I decided I would be open, and authentic (BTW this isn't the same as being an introvert, it is a different personality factor).

I present myself with my warts. I am unafraid. This is who I am at this time.

So my view to anyone reading is "get over it already", unless they agreed like Mr Bluwave not to read, then know you have a very valuable open lady in your life, who has had an extraordinary journey. Incidentally EE is an extraordinary course, I graduated too.

Now let's look at marrying OW. There is a certain sort of man who needs a new target to be permanent. They fear being alone or abandoned. An OW is a soft place to land. The G finds OW with tangible resources, your ex finds OW who revere him which makes him psychologically weak.

They need someone to rely on and to treat quite badly, to ignore but who is a housekeeper and caretaker in old age.

Have they actually truly worked on themselves?

In the time you S have they really changed? Did they do EE OR similar and truly absorb?

Did they learn to be a better partner, to learn to grow?

Are they on a path to meet their selfish end?

You and I both know the truth.

As far as your investment and that of your children, investment goes up and down in value. This has headed downwards, in D you get your share of the M spoils if you can identify it from a liar. But investment is more than money, it is functional and assist in life. Truly you can do without that investment, cash it in, cut your losses. Get invested in yourself.

Thank your lucky stars that ex deserves Alaska, that this OW is marriage material for him, that will not have to wipe his entitled arse in old age when he dribbles snot his chin.

You are FREE, taste it, enjoy it and celebrate exH OW and Alaska. This keeps him away from YOU and from taking more from your children.

Let him go.

Write him a letter and burn it. Cleanse your soul, do an exorcism. Release this ghost, you don't need it, it's chains rattle in your mind.

By marrying OW the ex releases you even more. Be sad for her, she doesn't understand that at some stage she will be in your shoes, not you in hers. She better love Alaska because she will die there. In this I do not refer to the beautiful extraordinary region but the snow like wastes of the ex heart with the icicles in his ventricles.

You know this too.

V


Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
V 64, WAW