Quote: I repeated what Schnarch says. That "if you are going to reject me, that you make YOURSELF vulnerable...not me.
I found where this is in the book. It's in the "infamous" chapter 11, near the end (I can't remember the page number) - it's where the wife is FINALLY beginning to confront herself, and she asks "So what do I do if he wants sex but I dont? Just give in?" (or something like that) and Schnarch says to her "Be real about what you want or don't want, and be willing to say so. If you're going to reject him, do it in a way that makes yourself vulnerable, not him." Very important stuff...
