There was a POW before we were married, about 4 years into our relationship. So this is why I could see all the signs leading up to another.
I think it’s the same EA.. but the OW is trying to get me to target someone else. I’m not sure what her tactic was by throwing him under the bus... maybe because she knew I would get mad at him.
The lies are definitely more important than an EA... I can already see he’s having an EA with this POW even if he doesn’t want to admit it to himself. The fact that he said he was working on things, would cut her out, and made promises as to how he will move on.. and then planned a lie to spend time with her.. this has just erased all my trust in him completely.
I’ve decided that I can longer live like this. I can’t trust what he says. I’ve told him that I need to see action from him that proves he is in this 100%, or he needs to leave and I need to move on. It’s not fair he keeps bringing her back into our lives when he says he wouldn’t.
Not sure when we will speak. He wanted to talk in person yesterday but I couldn’t. I already know he’s just going to say I have to trust him and that it was just a mistake. But I can’t see how it was a mistake if he had a whole day to plan and lie and follow through it.
