meg so sorry. I knew it wasn't a good thing you finding OW's birth date in his planner. People just don't do things like that for members of the opposite sex without there being a reason. I am very sad that our spouses make these choices with the far reaching effects it has.
I've been hurt multiples times by family and friends that have made the choice to step outside of their marriages with catastrophic effects. People do not realize how many people are hurt and affected by their actions. We still grieve the loss of our nieces XH, whom we all adored, and it has made fully accepting her new baby-daddy BF fiance very difficult. Its been a year and half and many of us will suddenly say how much we miss her XH.
But people that do this are beyond selfish. And though we love them immensely and can't see how very flawed and (yes I will use this word) evil they are. We want to hold onto the "but they never would have done this!" image we have, which causes us to blame ourselves more harshly than we should. Yes it takes 2 to let a MR deteriorate. But it that is no excuse for one to step outside of the MR.
Okay, enough of my preaching. Most of it is driven by hurt and pain, and Meg your last post really made me hurt for you. I think ADs may be in my future..............
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
