Take it from me, no need to acknowledge the affair let alone contact them. I did this exact thing and it made my XW dig in deeper and go underground on her affairs! She became even more resentful towards me and my kids once I confronted her.
Originally Posted By: KitCat
M's survive A's all the time - look at this board. Many make it to recon but many LBS's decide they no longer want the M.
I think all LBS start out trying to save their M's, I was one of them but as I discovered the many layers of betrayal from my XW along with a ton of work with my IC and support groups I no longer wanted to reconcile with her. It took me almost a year to realize this, my XW currently is person I have zero interest in, physically, emotionally, zero! Of course I do miss the financial part!
Hope everything goes well with your procedure. Stay strong!
