Anyway, my angel best friend said I should just go as normal, not say anything, see how H acts, if he's on his phone a lot while waiting, etc. I think I agree, I won't say anything, yet.
I agree, it can wait. I wouldn't concern yourself too much about whether he's on his phone or how he acts, you know he's having an A so that's kind of water under the bridge at this point.
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But it does help me with setting a boundary I've been struggling with... sex. When H came up Tuesday he said he will be back up Sunday evening (I had invited him to family dinner Saturday, St. Patrick's Day corned beef and cabbage, his favorite, but he said he wouldn't be able until Sunday). So I will tell him, nicely, that it's not necessary for him to spend the night.
Yeah I think that's a good approach, if he keeps pushing you then you can let him know that you know about OW and the sex (with you) needs to stop because you don't want an STD. And let that be the end of it, don't let him try to negotiate it with you by saying she's only a friend, or he'll get tested or wear protection or whatever. Just shut it down.
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How do I go about setting that boundary with him, without him completely turning away permanently?
If he turns away after you cut him off, then what does that say about your relationship with him and his attitude about you? I mean to me it says he's just using you, and ending that would be best for you anyway.
