I posted previously about suspecting OW, and about said OW's birthday in H's planner. I also posted about H saying he was going to date other people, and me taking Facebook off my phone for my mental health (it'll be 4 weeks this weekend since I've been on FB, yay me!).
I do still have FB messenger on my phone however, due to the fact that s17 broke yet ANOTHER phone, and now has to use s19's old phone (s19 has own cell plan, different carrier). Said phone is not unlocked, so s17 can't text or call, but can use apps and other data-driven stuff. So FM messenger is the only way for me to communicate with him.
Anyway, I received a request on messenger today from someone I don't know, but I could see the first line of the message so I accepted and read. It was said OW's FIANCE, notifying me that he just caught fiancé/OW with my H, they just left together on H on motorcycle (H is off work this week due to company in between projects). He said OW was stated she was leaving him for my H. He just wanted me to know. Said he thought it has been going on for about 3 months.
Which is about when BD happened.
I have a minor outpatient surgery scheduled tomorrow, been scheduled for quite a while. H is supposed to come up in the morning to take me and drive me home (I live about 35 minutes from the surgery location). He will stay with me at home until the kids are home from school to help me (father-in-law will be home, but he won't be able to attend to me as he has an MRI tomorrow at the VA hospital, his friend is taking him).
Anyway, my angel best friend said I should just go as normal, not say anything, see how H acts, if he's on his phone a lot while waiting, etc. I think I agree, I won't say anything, yet.
But it does help me with setting a boundary I've been struggling with... sex. When H came up Tuesday he said he will be back up Sunday evening (I had invited him to family dinner Saturday, St. Patrick's Day corned beef and cabbage, his favorite, but he said he wouldn't be able until Sunday). So I will tell him, nicely, that it's not necessary for him to spend the night. In fact, it confuses s21.
Me-44,H-44 S21,S19,S17,D13 M-22,T-29 (off and on prior to M) BD:12-20-17 (H said he had things to work out in his head) H moved out:3-4-18
