This makes sense AnotherStander. Thank you. The only issue is that if I tell my eldest kids, they will tell my ex, who would cause a lot of strife for me because my ex dislikes me and my W. I know I can’t avoid it if we actually D, but for now, I am concerned about making a mountain out of a molehill if we wind up reconciling. I also think it is hard that my eldest will ask why they can’t spend time with my W’s nieces and parents whom they are also close to. My eldest just went through a D 5 years ago, which upsets me how selfish my W is thinking right now. But I love her and want her to be happy.
