I was wondering if anybody had noticed whilst we BS are on a slooooow upward turn our WS are beginning to see a slooooow downward turn? Does our timescale for getting to a better place parallel our WS timescale for possible regret!
I don't think it's a linear exchange, but yeah I think there is something to that. Eventually the LBS lets go of the idea that the only path to happiness is through the WAS. They drop the rope and move on with their life. They think about the WAS less and less. Meanwhile the WAS often discovers their new free-wheeling life isn't all unicorns and rainbows like they expected. They also find the problems that they blamed the LBS for are (surprise!) still following them around. Sometimes there is an awakening, and sometimes there is not. I've been divorced 4 years now, I have a GF but my XW has just dated a little here and there without success. So does she want to get back together? I've certainly seen no indication of that at all.
Anyway I'm not saying to quit waiting, a year isn't really that long for a WAS timeline. It can take years for them to come out of the fog and find the LBS attractive again. But I am saying that you can't saw whether recon is in your future or not, so you have to start living your life in a way that you are OK with either outcome.
