25years mlc 10 years pass I FILE #9 LAST LAP

[AnotherStander]

25, your XH is a dick. And I mean that in the worst possible way Glad you're finally rid of him and moving on with your life now.

I so relate to your comment about finding out after the fact, that you're divorced. Anti climatic and though at the time, there was a dull pain, it was very dull, and a lot of me felt numb. Weirdly detached.

Yeah I can relate to that. I was concerned that D would utterly break me down and I was kind of steeling myself for a bad crash. But when I walked out of the courtroom I just felt more of a sense of relief, it was no longer hanging over my head like a dark cloud. A heavy weight had been lifted.

True, I missed THAT version of xh. Or that time we had. But it was more of a wistful feeling, and not such a gut punch grief.

I can relate to this sentiment as well. I miss my old life- my happy marriage, being a parent to my kids, etc. But THAT wife no longer exists, the woman she is now for better or worse is not the person I married. And those little kids that needed so much from me are adults now and two of them don't even live in the same city anymore. So I miss that life, but I know there's no going back to it. I have another life now- totally different, totally unexpected, but nice, pleasant and fulfilling in completely different ways.

I rarely say it here but congrats on your D