Quote: The best "differentiation" exercise I did was telling my W how I want to be rejected.
What exactly did you tell her? I was thinking how nice it would be if I asked my W for sex, and she rejected me by giving me a BJ. I don't think that's going to work, however.
Also, you said:
Quote: The LD mind has some defense mechanisms that seem childlike. Give yourself a break.
Ain't that the truth? My W's defense mechanisms are effective, but repetitive: too tired, too hot, too cold, too itchy, too full, too ticklish, and of course, the backup and best one of all, "too much pressure."
Quote: This is something I talked to my W about because she doesn't feel any "more" connection than she used to. She sees it as *me* becoming more connected at a level closer to hers. It might just not be a priority to be "more" connected for our Ws yet. I'm trying to figure this one out.
I've been thinking about this, too, because whenever I bring up my lack of connection with her to my W, she always claims that she is very connected to me...except of course when I "pressure" her by saying that we need to work on the R, which is when she says, "I don't know you anymore. You're tearing this M apart." Anyway, perhaps it is as hard for them to understand our lack of connection w/o sex, as it is for us to understand their strong connection in the sexless atmosphere.
Hairdog - wondering why it has to be so difficult.
