You are truly a very analytical over-thinker. It's your nature, who you are and that is fine. If you are going to let that go a little anywhere in your life, let it be when you are having intimate moments with your wife. Like the face touching. Don't hold back. That's is the time you should get out of your head and truly lead with the soul and maybe even with the guy in your pants, ya know what I mean? There are moments it is ok to do that.