I so relate to your comment about finding out after the fact, that you're divorced. Anti climatic and though at the time, there was a dull pain, it was very dull, and a lot of me felt numb. Weirdly detached.
Like saying "oh, so I'm divorced... I don't think I had breakfast today..."
It's not consistently like that, sometimes the old anger rises up but it's pretty momentary.
My feeling of life being turned upside down has faded a lot, and evolved into a "past change"...because I'm IN my new life now.
No more transition.
I'm "here" now. And Figuring things out.
My plan about living abroad is two fold. I either get a job here, that involves a lot of travel, or I move overseas to work.
If I find no job from here, I go there in person and look. If I can't find work there, I still go & live more cheaply than here, for maybe a year.
Europe is a priority, but it's not the only one. There is an expat community there and some military bases where I can avail myself of veteran's activities & other Americans, if need be.
*(Input welcome)*
IF I can get a job elsewhere, like teaching English in Africa or Dubai, I'd take it.
I have about 6 months to decide and implement "The Plan."
As I fill my mind/heart & my life with my Plan ^^^ - (my "GAL")
the divorce, my xh and deep sense of betrayal & injustice, all just lessen in importance.
So, yay!
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
