We had a calm evening when H came up to see kids last night. Had dinner, watched TV. Talked about completely neutral things. Of course the kids all scattered to their rooms, only coming out to eat.

There was sex involved before he left. I'm pretty sure that's the real reason why he wanted to come visit. He knows the kids all hang out in there rooms all the time anyway (what teenager doesn't?)

As much as I don't want to let the last bit of connection go (sex), I think that I need to stop allowing it. He is not seeing me as a person of value, just as a physical release. I don't know though if I'm willing to face the reality of H seeking that release elsewhere though.

How do I go about setting that boundary with him, without him completely turning away permanently? H can be very manipulative, very narcissistic, and he even admitted to me that he is a cake eater. So I'm not sure how to handle this boundary.

Me-44,H-44
S21,S19,S17,D13
M-22,T-29 (off and on prior to M)
BD:12-20-17 (H said he had things to work out in his head)
H moved out:3-4-18