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AnotherStander: Thank you for the response and advice. I have many times talked to my W about her alcoholism and the effect that it has on me and our family. She refuses to admit that she has a problem, instead saying that I am the only one that has a problem with the drinking, and says that she is not an alcoholic.

There have been no late night rages for a few weeks. I have been detaching and letting her be. It is so heartbreaking to watch someone that you love so much self destruct before your eyes.

We still live in the same house, but rarely speak anymore unless it involves the house or the kids.

I am still seeking an Al-Anon meeting that fits my schedule. I know that it will help me tremendously. I am involved on another forum that deals with family members of alcoholics also. That has helped me gain clarity that the alcoholism isn't my fault, that I can't control it, nor can I cure it. I have held out hope that she will hit rock bottom for years. I guess my own rock bottom is within view, finally.