Peace, I do sometimes listen to Joel Osteen and my best friend is a huge fan of his and often forwards me his "Today's Word" emails.
I think if H had walked away and vanished right away, it would make more sense (not that any of this makes sense).
For the first 2-plus years, he communicated - at times even seeming clingy - and even though he has played games and avoided the D and discussions of finances, he was at least willing to communicate with me.
His last contact was a text on my birthday in August. I never would have guessed he would just stop communicating completely, since even though I was staying detached and distant, we had a civil relationship and he took the time to text me happy birthday.
So I do have to believe that his disappearing act has to do with me having cancer. Which seems so much crueler than cutting off communication with me if I were well. Like he decided cancer would make me needy or something and he is so hell bent on building his new life and focusing only on himself that he can't be bothered with me now that he might have to ask how I'm doing every now and then.
Or he thinks now I'm so defective, it's not even worth his time to maintain any relationship. Why would he consider going back to a wife who might die and he'll end up alone anyway? Better to just stick with OW - she's healthy and therefore the better option.
Sounds horrible, but I really believe it's possible that's how he's viewing the situation.
