Well, we have a huge, whole family involved (mostly), blowout the other day. H was coming up to spend time with the kids (mostly s21 and d13). Long story short, his "blood started to boil" (his terminology) when he saw s19 on the road on his (son's) motorcycle. Son was supposed to be going up to the high country to get his truck unstuck from the snow (previous post).

Anyway... that didn't happen. H got to the house, called s19 told him to come back home, started yelling, saying various things, then said "f*#@ you all, you deal with it, you must not care about the expensive truck stuck in the woods." He kept going on, then s17 spoke up and asked H to leave. He was trying to protect his brother from something bad when he got home.

Anyway, H left, s17 left to friend's house, then H came back said he was packing the rest of his stuff. We yelled a lot back an forth as he packed. H then started to calm down. S19 came home, H was calm. Fighting went back and forth. Finally came to the point that we were still in the same spot. H is confused, feels he hasn't been getting his needs met by me for years, after years of telling me his needs and me doing "nothing". Same discussion, different day.

He left off saying he wanted to come back Tuesday for dinner and to spend time with kids, but only if everyone in family was comfortable. I checked, everyone was fine with it. So he's coming to spend time with kids this evening. I told the s17 and s19 to put on a happy face, don't avoid him. And if things go south again, we can honestly say that it was not any of us, he is the one in the sour mood (which we all know, even H has admitted he puts everyone in bad mood).

So that's my long story short. To give a detailed play-by-play would take a while, but we all survived. I had heart-to-heart with all the kids, told them they each have to form their own relationship with him.

Me-44,H-44
S21,S19,S17,D13
M-22,T-29 (off and on prior to M)
BD:12-20-17 (H said he had things to work out in his head)
H moved out:3-4-18