TacoEd, i am going to parrot what Steve85 said... i wonder if there is OM in the wings... and i would say perhaps since Oct. 2016...
things were running more smoothly but little intimacy... and then BD last month... and then her not caring to divorce... that leaves you in a life of limbo... that's really not fair to you... but she is probably thinking because you want the marriage, that you would be content with that...