And due to my W's relationship with her father (where she never felt good enough)
I also have been hearing many times until recently how I remind of her stepfather... He was very abusive also physically, which I never did, but she felt that my way of criticizing reminded of him. I have actually sometimes felt that the "ghost" of her stepfather has been living between me and my wife... Even after the PA she said she felt that she put me in her stepfather shoes - when she was living at home she needed to have secret relationship with her boyfriend since stepfather did not approve it. According to her, she was repeating this trauma with OM. Who knows, but very peculiar...
