Gordie #17: deliberately not divorced

[SBJ]

Gord, you are a strong guy that is treading water in a storm that I can't understand. Mine ran and yours decided to stay. We are on trying to get to the same place, but going at it in different ways. Keep the faith my brother.

Some odd thoughts and agreements:
1. the things you listed that she is not doing...working on the M, talking about the future, showing remorse. She is definitely not ready to work on things. I don't have any idea when or if she will,
but there is not way that she can do those things yet. Amy C had thoughts on those things when she went thru them, but I can't remember specifics on how long it took her to get there.

2. the kissing thing. WOW! That is eye opening. I had not read or heard that, but now it makes sense. Mine did the same thing years ago. Her complaint that it was suffocating to her...like I was sucking air away from her.

3. Being judgmental. I totally agree, but it takes us a while to reach that point. We have been bruised and battered and it takes us time to reach the understanding that they have been doing the same thing to themselves internally for years.

One day at a time my friend!