I have also been thinking that even if this has been tough journey, it has been needed for me to wake up and to be a better person. I feel that going abroad for work assignment 4 years ago was the final nail to coffin of our marriage, since she felt so lonely there and I was stressed with work. Also in the expat assignment happened what my wife described was the thing made her closing her heart for good: she got miscarriage and she felt that I prioritized work over her and abandoned her when she needed me the most. I did not feel it that dramatically, but for sure should have been there more. This is the single situation in our marriage that I regret the most.
If we would have not gone to that assignment, we still maybe would be together.
But do I regret we went? No.
Since even if we would have been stayed together, the underlying problems would be there. We would be together, but we (and my wife) would not be happy. This crisis have made me a better man, and if we get another chance with my dear wife, she gets the man that she deserves. If she will not want to continue with me, I will be wiser in my potential next relationship.


M: 39 W:39
S: 13 D:9
T: 15 M:14
ILYBINILWY: 5/2016
Separation: 1/2018
OM confirmed: 2/2018