If you do that which works and a 180, then it's not more of the same!
Yes, I can see it now. I was so afraid not to smother her after she said she needed space that I appeared as cold as before. She felt I don´t care for her, I just had a "fixation" in my head that I want to save our marriage on principle. 180 for me is to open up and share my feelings with her and let her feel herself accepted as she is.
How detachment works under these circumstances would be nice to master if that even is possible...
