My New Scenario

[Newly20]

Hi guys new here to share my story and hopefully get some good advice from the ones who have been in my shoes. My wife and I have been together for 11 years, married for 7. Daughter age 3. We had our first split back in May 2011, she was not happy that we were falling into a routine, we wouldn't go out and i lacked the ability for giving her detailed stuff such as flowers and cards. She has always been one to celebrate special occasions and plan an outing or even something nice at home. This split went on for 6 months and we eventually reconciled. We began counseling but it was more of a multiple couples counseling and we stopped attending, did not look elsewhere either. Got pregnant almost immediately after this reconnect.

Fast forward to October 2016, wife drops the I love you but not in love with you. She was disappointed that I would not spend time at home and work too much, my reasoning was to make up for income that she was not earning anymore as she was a stay at home mother. I begged and pleaded her not to end things, was giving her some space and at the same time changed my ways. I started being more active in the baby's life, we would go out more as a family and i would not prioritize work. Things began to get good again, so it seemed. We went on an anniversary trip in Feb 2017 and a family vacation for our daughters birthday in September. All things seemed to be better, we didn't have as much intimacy as i would like but i put it off as it being due to both of us working and having a child would not always allow for it. She dropped this last bomb on me on FEb 28,2018. Said she loves me but not in love with me, she tried to make it work for a long time but she has not been happy since October 2016.