I guess I have to accept that getting anything out of him is hopeless. It's been hard to wrap my head around the fact that he would do this to me. He basically just walked away, not even bothering to get divorced, and started a whole new life for himself
Yes, NO expectations of any sort. Don’t give up what you are financially owed though.
Don’t take his actions personal, he would have done it to anyone. They can’t deal with aging/mortality and run from it. My xw’s dad was diagnosed with cancer shortly after bd followed by heart trouble. Once when I asked how he was she told me “he’ll be fine,” and acted like it wasn’t a big deal. They just can’t deal with it so they run, ignore, get angry, etc.
Try not to give him any more of your energy, focus on yourself!
