Totally in agreement about passion Ginger. My ex was so disengaged he had no real passion. It is something I value in people as well.
Regarding this new guy, I would not worry so much. You are allowed to say, "nope your not the one. I don't want to continue this" for whatever reason you want. I know you are a very empathetic person though and you do not want to hurt feelings. But now is a time to work on putting yourself first. Good luck tonight. I think you might even feel empowered. We stayed in relationships that were not good for us. This is great that you are recognizing this so early.
I was thinking about your frustration regarding the dating scene. How some people have it easy, others do not. And there really is no explanation. I came back to what you were saying after I was thinking about how easy my SIL has it. 2 Beautiful kids that thankfully do not have any issues. Big house. Lots of help. Does not have to work. A loyal husband, etc etc
So this is what i have been thinking about to counter those feelings of comparison.
1. Tides can turn any time. (Not that I want anyone I love to suffer. I am very happy for my brother and adore his family) But there are never guarantees in life. What is here today might not be tomorrow. And it comes at the drop of a hat. And what you do not have right now can also come at anytime if you are open to it. No use focusing on others.
2. The hardships we have, only make us more appreciative and more empathetic. God! I cant believe the things I used to agonize over. I am a better person for not having a completely easy life....
Best example I can give. My son is ADHD and has sensory/dyspraxia issues. (We thought it was a spectrum disorder but not so much anymore) I take him to a special clinic to help. The moms at this clinic all have kids with some pretty serious issues. Much worse then my sons. These are the absolute BEST, MOST DOWN TO EARTH , ACCEPTING OF ALL TYPES OF CRAZINESS MOMS! Totally different from the typical soccer moms that I deal with in my sons school. The moms in my son's school make such a big deal over every friggen thing. Get up in arms over minor things, like the toy that was given to their child at the holiday party broke and they need another one and its not fair that they didnt have extras type of stuff.
These moms do not know real issues or real hardships. I might have been like that too if I had an everything handed to me in life.
Anyway, In my heart of hearts, I really feel like a partnership will happen for you. You are so open to it. And you will know how to appreciate a great guy. I think now is a good time, to just get to meet guys till you find the person worthy of you.
