Quote: My wife and I find that spending time together makes a big difference. For me, if I spend about 5 hours quality time a week with her, I feel a LOT closer to her. Hiking, sailing, even just driving around in the car and talking all qualify.
I had a clarification of thought in the meantime. I think what I was trying to say was that it IS important to spend time together (otherwise why would you be in the R to begin with?), but if you feel you have to BASE your R on "shared interests", then if your tastes or hers change and you don't have as many shared interests, what happens to the R? If the R is, instead, based on mutual interest (in each other) and intimacy, it has a much higher likelihood of enduring...
