Gordie #17: deliberately not divorced

[Gordie]

Advice needed:

I have been doing well and have been focusing on me and my life and the kids. W is getting friendlier and sharing more of her life with me, increasing physical contact, etc. I have not been pursuing and we have not had R talks. She has been much more engaged in family life.

Well, yesterday instead of joining in a family event, she told me she was going to dinner but not with whom. This is a trigger for me. Do I ask her about this or just let it be? My guess is she went out with a GF but then why not just tell me that? She has shown none of the cold and distant and mean attitudes that accompanied OM1 and OM2. If she did, then I would be much more suspicious.