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[NotATLDave]

I know what you mean about Dr. Harley. I'm not so certain that shared-recreation is necessarily a requirement for all couples. My W told me she's more attracted to me when I have my own life with friends but that I prioritize her and the family into my schedule unlike I behaved in OurMarriage 1.0 where I had my own life and chose my own interests first. I put Dr. Harley into a category with alot of other PhD authors who seem to present logical, sound advice that's not really getting under the hood. My C told me that she sees a lot of authors of self-help material as being like diet gurus offering one more thing to fuel hope only to make you feel terrible when it fails. She says she's a big fan of Schnarch and that comparing him to other authors is like comparing an eating disorder expert to Dr. Atkins. Afterall, if you can fix the problem, then both people in the relationship will feel excited about the ideas in the other books.