2nd Round MLC ? Dejavue?

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Has anyone ever said to the mlc or wa spouse choose me or lose me I am not a back up plan and definitely not a 2nd option?

ruhappy, if you want to speed up D, then that is something you should say. Otherwise, you shouldn't initiate R talks.

But it is your choice and if you decide to do it, you should have a plan of how to proceed in case he either doesn't respond (likely) or repeats his "I no longer love you". He will 99,99 % not tell you what you want to hear. So please, think it through.