Right or Wrong, watching golf with W she went to take a shower before going to the store to get dinner.
She had been on her laptop while watching and after the shower, she rushed into the laptop as if shutting something down. Could be innocent.

Well, I rode with W to the store and after a while, the incident began to fester in my suspicions.
On the way home I asked W if I could get an honest answer. She said in a sweet voice. "I'll try"
I asked what she was doing when she rush to shut down into the laptop, in the most unaccusative way I could ask.

Her tone changed. W said she realized she forgot to shut the computer down is all, and that she didn't remember being in any kind of rush. But that she could see how someone looking for something could see anything.
I replied that I wasn't looking for anything.

Now it's not my fault that things trigger suspicions. I haven't accused or asked about anything for many months.

When we got home I apologized if she felt she was being unjustly accused.
I explained that when something hit me I felt it was better to get it out there than to hold it in and let it fester.

I spend 16 years NEVER being suspicious and now for the last 4 years, I have to fight the feeling when something hits. Not my fault.


M 53 W 54, M since 98
D15, D19
8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM
until 10/14
7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR
12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.