It may blow minds of men, but I'll say for some women (just to be safe) the deep, intimate, tongue kissing is more........(how should I say......) personal or sensual, than intercourse. Remember the movie "Pretty Woman" where the two hookers were talking about having sex and avoiding kissing with their clients? The hookers looked at sex as a business and did not want to risk an emotional connection............which came from kissing. It plays on the woman's senses. Kisses will fill her senses, or leave her empty. It will turn her on.... or off. Even in the early dating years, how the man's kisses make her feel, plays a critical part in how the R develops. I don't mean to make her sound shallow....but I hope you know what I mean.
Women can let a man have intercourse with her, while her mind is on the conference she had with her kid's teacher that day. That's usually when she's just laying there and he's doing all the work. But kissing normally requires some type of response, whether she responds to intercourse or not. Slow, sexy, wet, deep kissing......is more sensual or personal for her. Maybe b/c it's closer to her brain, IDK, but it is harder to have tongue kisses while thinking about everything she needs to pick up at the grocery store. It touches her senses, good or bad......and it will either cause her to want more, ......or she'll pull back. Whereas, she is physically and emotionally capable of laying there like a corpse and having no response, while the man has sex with her........it is something about staying engaged in tongue kissing that draws a response of some type.
In many cases, the H can guage the temperature of his MR by his W's kisses. If he notices she is not kissing before/during sex, that's a red flag. If she avoids tongue kisses, that's a red flag. Their M is rapidly declining......even if she agrees to have sex with him. No kissing = red flag! If a W is just giving her H a peck on the cheek......and that's all the type of kisses he gets from her.....their MR is in big trouble. It doesn't mean she is in an affair, but it means she is not sexually attracted to her H the way she once was. She can give anyone a peck on the cheek, b/c it does not require or indicate anything sexual. Telling the H goodbye or goodnight and giving him a quick peck......is more out of habit than any affection. It's as if she thinks a peck will hold him at bay.
If the MR is clawing its way back from the grave, it may not have seen any peck kisses in a long time......so a peck is a start. Next step is her mouth getting closer to his. Maybe her lips stay closed, but she at least puts her mouth on his. Next step is opening her lips. (Reminds you of school days, doesn't it? Trying to get to that point of French kissing the girl). The hotter she feels attraction for him.......the more she'll enjoy his passionate tongue kissing.
If the MR is not where it use to be, and/or the W is in an EA/PA....or even if she has a high sex drive and she craves physical release that comes in having sex.......she might engage in sex with her H. However, it does not mean she is feeling desire for him, personally. There use to be a song, "It's in His Kiss". Well, it's in the woman's kisses that tell the real story of how she feels about him........not about sex or anything else.....but about him, the man.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
