This is the problem amd has always been the problem.
And nows the time to address it.
How do you think you can address it? Religion? Therapy? Self reflection? Resolving foo issues? Some serious 2x4s?
I really feel like you are on here to learm some techniques (typically deployed ny marcissists) to attract her back onmy to to this again until you are ready to discard and do even more damage.