The copy we're working with right now is from the library. I can have it out on my card for two 3-week periods, and then she could check it out for another two 3-week periods, but I wanted my own copy that I could mark up for myself, as well as that would then give us each a copy we could read without having to watch to see if the other wanted to read it. Plus, this is a book I want to live by, so I want to OWN it. I think W saw my buying it as a "threatening" gesture, because in her mind (I'm interpreting here from her reaction) if we have a copy from the library, and we're both reading it, why isn't that "good enough for now"? Why would I want to BUY a copy if we have it from the library? I think even though she's read most of the first two chapters and has therefore received a good bit of the theory (as well as some practical examples), she hasn't quite "bought into it" yet. Her viewpoint is very much "Go slow... don't change too much at once... give me some time". I started reading Divorce Busting yesterday while she was reading PM, and the focus of THAT book is that changes CAN and MUST be made quickly for the good of the M. So that gave me still more determination to hold onto myself in the face of her contrary viewpoint, and to stand up for my own beliefs.
