Hey reframe, going through the exact same thing with my spouse. Bomb dropped 1/29/2018. Still in the house. Says she doesn't love me, closed off. Discussions always lead to pain, she doesn't want to do it anymore, to forgive me, to love me.
Yet she's here in the house, spending weekends with me. We're working on it, going to counseling, but it all feels hopeless if you think about the lack of affection, sleeping separately, the indications of her moving on, the indifference, all the little things they did that they no longer do seem to really hit the heart so powerfully and make you long for them.
Did deep brother, you'll make it through this a better person. Focus on being your best self, be the lighthouse in the storm and experience the storm, but don't let it extinguish our light. One day at a time, with hope and love in your heart - not for her, but for yourself.
