Not sure what you mean by "should my approach be the same". Act as if you didn't know anything about it? I don't think that would be completely honest, do you? It's one thing for you to choose not to confront your WW about an A, and to focus on making changes on yourself. But to lie, if your W went to you so guilt-ridden she could not live with herself until she confessed her affair? No, I couldn't support that decision.
I should have expanded on this question a little bit.
What I meant was not acting as if you didn't know. I couldn't pull that off.
What I was asking is if the approach of telling her that I couldn't live in an open M, stating consequences if she contacts OM, transparency plan, etc. would change.
When my children confess their "sins" before I find out, the repercussions are not nearly as harsh as if they don't. Would the same apply here?
Maybe I should have simply asked "What would change in the discussion if she were to miraculously confess?"
M: 25 T:33 Me: 48 W: 49 S24, D21, D18, D15, S8 All living at home while going to school A confirmed: 12-25-17 EA Definite PA Probable
