((exquisitetobe)) - You've got good kids. Thoughtless like all children are and they take you for granted like most children but they do care about you and love you.
When I read your post last night I'd thought of suggesting you call my S23 and have him make up the spare room for you to have a mini-vacation
They can be taught. S23 and I have a very different relationship than you and your kids - in part because I'm Dad and not Mom so he doesn't take advantage of me in the same way. There are small things. I neatly fold my hand towel in the bathroom (you're not surprised are you). After about 2 months S23 now does that for his too (mostly). A few days ago I was looking for something in the kitchen and yep - it was in S23's room. His excuse though was that he knew that I liked a clean counter so he stored the stuff he used for a late night meal in his room so that the counter would be clean. Seemed logical to him I suppose.
I'm glad you've sought professional help with your stress and anxiety. It's a wise and strong person who knows when to ask for help. It seems like your kids are learning that Mom struggles some times and that it is indeed a different world than when they had 2 parents and different income resources available to them.
Be kind to yourself. You're the only you that you've got.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
