So this morning, when she dropped off S11 to catch the bus, I walked out the house to make sure there was no funny business. I saw the dogs in her car. I told her "The dogs aren't staying here." She yelled back, "I know that, @sshole! I'm bringing them to the vets!" (Which is where they get boarded.)
This was in front of S11. I really wanted to say something because I don't appreciate her doing that in front of him. But I just bit my tongue and walked away.
I have to remind myself - my goal is to get her to respect me, not like me.
You egged her on for no reason, you were the aggressor in this scenario, based on your accounts she never did anything that indicated she was trying to get you to take the dogs.
With that said, I believe the best way to handle a difficult situation is to plan ahead for it, or at least think ahead about what your goals in any type of situation are.
Your son was there, you had an altercation with an adult female, how would you want him to act in that situation? He will learn from you.
You made an unnecessary comment to her, she responded by calling you an explanitive. How would you like to teach your son to react in such a situation? You avoided conflict by walking away, is that what you want to teach him to do? Or would you rather teach him to look his "attacker" in the eye, calmly state that you will not be spoken to in that way, to address the situation straight forward?
M - 9 1/2 years 5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA 10/31/16 - We sold house 01/10/18 - D Finalized
