Thank you, Cathy, that was a very thoughtful and insightful reply.
Quote: The thing about meno is that if allowed it can easily take control of your life and become an excuse. A real excuse but just an excuse. It can become a cop out and it sounds as if your wife is using it to cop out on some things. That isn't a negative judgment, I fully understand where she is coming from, having been there myself.
I think you're right on here. I've been feeling that way myself. I'm hoping that with the help of PM, we can discuss this issue frankly, and discover how we are BOTH contributing to the "problem" around this issue.
I loved your story about your new R! What an interesting coincidence. Just this morning, I had the thought "What if you kept the same level of desire, but suddenly YOU were the LD part of the R?" I have to admit, I have NO idea what would happen. I do hope I'd have the ability to hold onto myself and maintain the connection, and build on it. That's what this is all about. Not that you don't FEEL pressure, but that you REALIZE that the pressure is coming from within yourself, from your own fears and lack of self-confidence, and you confront yourself on that, and soothe yourself, and discover that you CAN maintain your SELF even in the face of the "demands of the relationship", and you can find it within yourself to ACT out of Love, instead of REACT out of fear. Does that make any sense?
