L....it was a huge, I mean huge turn off for me as well. I see her becoming more and more like her mother every day and her mom is a complete nut job. Selfish, self-centered a real narcissist and you are right I am going to find someone way better and it will probably blow my mind.
You know when someone says something and they act like they are joking there is some truth to what they are saying. If she wants to get them good on her I just wasn't about her to hang that over my head and not step into the conversation. F-that. Do I think she needs them, "no" but if it helps with her confidence then do what you need to do. Overrated, probably not at first .....over time I see where you are coming from.
I feel I am getting close....want the D to be final first then I will evaluate where I am at emotionally. I definitely don't want to rush it and just because I meet some ladies out for coffee etc. doesn't mean it has to be serious to your point. I am sure it will be a little awkward at first but at some point in time it is going to happen and how do you know when you are truly ready any way you know?
I have a buddy that I play basketball with who went through the same things as us a couple of years ago. He said it took him about a year before he felt comfortable and when he stepped out he said it was awesome. The funny thing is he told me yesterday that his XW reached out to him and told him she is asking her live in boyfriend to move out because it wasn't working and he said she is starting to contact him more for stupid reasons.
I told him where I thought it was leading to.....he just laughed, smiled and said absolutely no way he was going back because the woman he was currently with was so awesome.
.....over time I see where you are coming from.