Hey Tim - Sorry your W is so stressed about this. Would it maybe help if you gave her a little control/power over the situation, but still didn't completely let her off the hook for the conversation you wish to have with her? Perhaps something like..."Dear, I can see how stressed you are and I in no way want this to be a stressful experience for you. I just wanted to talk to you about some exciting changes I'm hoping to make for myself. If you are uncomfortable talking about it tonight, can you pick a time between now and Sunday that we can sit down and really have a heart to heart?" It sounds like she's scared of confrontation, or of being called "wrong" in all this. I would be nervous, too, if I were her. Good luck, whatever happens!
