Yes, run it all by a lawyer. Do you know any personally?

I'm not sure of the CA process, but this is a universal:
* Know what YOU want. Know what is important to YOU. You cannot negotiate anything until and unless you know exactly what you want.

ex. sounds like the priority is keeping the house until son graduates HS. You will need other things too though.

I hope this helps in some small way. And === don't worry if it takes more time than you thought it would. This is a big deal. Take all the time you need so that you're really sure and comfortable with your agreement.

{{{{{{{Hugs}}}}}}}

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver