Update: Just got home from work. When W picked me up, I could cut the tension in the car with a knife. She is feeling seriously threatened by what she thinks I have in mind. Trust me, if I had mentioned this earlier in the week, which would have "given her more time to think about it", she would have spent that time building this up in her mind to astronomical proportions, and it would not have been a kindness. It would have been MUCH better if I could've broached this subject out of the blue in the evening when we could talk about it right then, but I could see that wasn't going to happen, so I had to do what I did. She has gone to drive S18 to work. As she left, she said she'd be stopping at the drugstore to get some vitamins. Remember that she has spent most of the past month researching which vitamins would help her with her meno symptoms. During that time, we have ML twice, and in neither case were there any meno symptoms worth mentioning. The fact that she is buying the vitamins NOW is a clear indication to me that she is trying to give herself something she can point to and say "See, I am working on this... have more patience with me and wait a while to see what these do." I've wrestled with what I've just typed, because it could be argued that I am analyzing her motives and putting words in her mouth, but I don't think that's the case... I'm just interpreting her actions. Actions are often used to send a message, and I think the message is pretty clear on this one. Beyond that, I'm not attaching any particular importance to this, if she IS setting up to try to deflect my intent, it won't have that effect. I'm not being adversarial about this, although it may look that way. I'm just determined to stand up for myself and point out that she is not the only one who is entitled to try to improve our marriage, and I do not have to just sit idle and wait while she works on things. Should be an interesting evening (and weekend)...
