Hello.

I went to see the paralegal today and got the paperwork started to file. I was fine until I got there. Once she started asking questions I started feeling overwhelmed. I was even filling out forms wrong. Not sure what that was about.

Anyway, I didn't realize I needed to know the main terms of what I want as far as splitting assets, support and custody. I guess that all goes on the petition. I gave her all the info H and I had agreed on, but there are still some things unresolved, like retirement. I go back in a week to sign what she prepares.

I left feeling rushed and frazzled. I hope I am not making a mistake by doing this with her. I am thinking I will take the petition to a lawyer to review before I have her file it? I also have some more questions....I just know I am being very nice in waiving many things in lieu of staying in our home, and she can't give me advice. I just don't want a lawyer leading me into an ugly battle. To me, peace is better than money, and that's all I want for S and I. To just keep living the way we are.

I hope with some time to sleep on it and some number crunching, I can feel a little better about my choices.

Does anyone know, during this process, where we make the final decisions on assets? Is the petition filed just a preliminary step? I live in CA. Any advice will help.

Thank you
M


Me 48 H 46 S 11
M 2004
BD 8/13
H moved out 2/15
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