Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 12, D on hold

[PsySara]

WH was served today. When he told me that I was a bit surprised as my lawyer said they would coordinate the time with me. Oh well, onward and upward.

WH said I was still invited to go with him and the kids to WDW where they will be meeting some of his family. I politely declined. WH went on to say he was worried I would be home and lonely and he felt guilty. I told him I was looking forward to a weekend to myself, I truly am.

He started asking me what he was supposed to do but I shut that down and said he could seek legal counsel or go pro se. He seems to be leaning towards pro se which would be awesome for me as it would make for a swift divorce without $$$$. I am mostly STFUing and hoping he continues his passive method as it means a tactical advantage for me. He also started looking for places to rent nearby so the kids could stay in the same neighborhood regardless of which parent has them. I think he would start out with a bang but then end up being an EOW dad. He just doesn't have the stamina to parent half time. I'm not bringing it up, rather I will document his time spent (or not spent) with the kids on his days/weeks and readdress full legal custody in a year.

For now the kids are completely oblivious and I wish I could keep it that way. I think we will have him move out in steps until it seems a bit organic. I spend most of the time with them on the day-to-day basis so it will probably end up being background. One can hope anyways.

Lately I feel mostly just DONE with him. I need my home to be my safe place and right now it isn't. I need the eggshells to disappear. I also look forward to having friends over more often as WH made that virtually impossible as he hates visitors.