WAW? Would Love Opinions. Part 13

[DonH]

I don't know if this is the appropriate thread to debate this on and I don't want to hijack but I also don't agree - at least not fully - and at least not for me. I'm a few years younger than AS but I could never imagine dating someone in her 20s. I'm not even sure I could do a hookup that young. Let's start with the fact my step daughter is 31. What would she say or think? Now I don't need her approval but I don't think I could argue with her points either. In fact I'd make them for her. Now 20 years younger, perhaps but are we talking a real R here?

What does the average 28 year old have in common with the average 55 or even 50 year old? Does she have daddy issues? I'd certainly wonder. What do we have in common? I remember hearing about a friend of a friend, he's near 60 who took some one older than his own D to the Chicago concert. They had front row seats. She asked him who these guys are!!!!! Flipping Chicago - just fresh into the Rock and roll HOF and still out touring, yet... Is that not a microcosm of the issue?

But much deeper, what 25 or even 35 year old does not want kids? Do I? HEII TO THE NO. How does that work and would I not be robbing her? What does meeting the parents go like? Who got their ARP card first? What about friends? Have a dinner party with her 25 year old couple friends and my 50 year old couple friends? And then marriage? I have several friends who married women in their 20s while they were in their 40s as well as women in their 30s and guys in their 50s. The guys are now in their 70s and the women have all left as 70 and 50 looked way different than 50/30 did.

I just really struggle with all of this. In many ways it's like another discussion going on here about dating someone who is a regular pot smoker. It's not that it's that bad, it's more that it's just not me. Someone I look up to, respect, feel is my equal would not want to do either - smoke pot or date 25 years up or down. It's who we are - or are not.

Clearly I'm different. Not better, not worse, just different. I have no tattoos and don't want any. I've never dated anyone with pink hair, etc. I guess it all comes down to the fact that dating someone half your age works for some, a few. It's just not the answer for the average guy. It's more a fringe thing. It's awesome if it works for two people and I really do mean AWESOME. But to try to say it's a winning strategy for the average 45 year old is like saying on line dating is the best way to meet someone. HARDLY! It works for some but not the masses.

That's my input.