Finally the biggest factor that an older man has in his favor is that he can now date easily 20 years below him and few people think there is anything wrong with it. So a 45-year-old-man dating a 25-year-old-woman is cool. Which means that a man gets the entire pool of women from 25-60 to date and he can have his pick.
Man have I ever been living this scenario, except the age gap between my GF and me is even more than that. And yes, people think it's cool (except older women, LOL!) And she wasn't the exception, when I started dating, I dated several women that were also in their 20's. That article doesn't mention it but another factor is women in their 40's and 50's that find themselves in the dating pool seem to be really jaded. Maybe it's because they've been burned in previous relationships, but their walls are high and their skepticism runs deep. I started out trying to date in my age group but just could not get anyone to progress beyond texting! They would ask question after question but if I brought up meeting I got never-ending excuses. But the pool of available younger women is huge and many of them actually will not date younger guys. And they wanted to meet right away, many of them I met the same day as first contact. I can't tell you how many stories I heard about immature BF's they ditched because their idea of sex was receiving oral while playing a video game in the living room (no I'm not joking). BF's that wouldn't open a door for them, never complimented them, and never even freakin' paid for a movie or dinner for their GF. Suddenly here comes this older, educated, mature gentleman that flirts, holds doors, pulls out chairs, pays without comment and makes them feel like they are the only attractive woman in the room. Well you can imagine how that goes, it's like handing an ice-cold frosty drink to someone that's been trekking through the desert for days. Of course a lot of young women think dating an older guy is "icky" because of the stigma society places on it. So don't expect EVERY young woman to fall all over herself around you. But a lot more of them do than you might expect.
So how hard is it to date someone with an age gap of decades? Well it's not always easy street but is any relationship? When we're together I don't feel like I'm with someone half my age, we relate on a lot of different levels and have many common interests. Sometimes people stare at us, that's usually my reminder that we are not a "conventional" couple :-) We both have a lot of tattoos and she always has crazy colors in her hair (blonde with purple/ blue/ red tips) so we're kind of hard to miss even without the age difference. I love her to pieces though, we have so much fun and we actually both like the attention so it's all good! We've been talking about the "M" word, never thought I would again but hey, who knows.
Anyway I've preached this before but any of you reading this that feel sad, depressed, alone and that your life is over; I WAS YOU. I really was, I can't stress it enough. I never thought I would date again, or that anything else significant would ever happen. I thought I was on autopilot to the end. But it wasn't my life that was over, it was that PHASE of my life that was over. Just like yours is. But what you don't know is something I didn't either but do now- the next phase is going to blow your mind.
