Lots has happened. For the most part W and myself have dedicated ourselves to making it work. It hasn't been perfect but we definitely are better than we were in a long time (maybe ever). Our MC has been instrumental. This woman is such a gifted person in getting to the bottom and recognizing that we had a lot in common.
Knowing about OM is still rough despite that W has said she feels used and manipulated by him. She is also sad at times at the realization she has been used. At times that makes me shut down because I am thinking: well you should have never done that. But I am able to recognize it now as not her being sad OM is gone (more that she is upset she let it get to this point and how she risked a lot for someone that wasn't even worth it).
BUT.... W is also accepted into the PhD program on the other side of the country so we are going to make it interesting in trying to make it work since we need my income so I am staying here for a while. It has made it easier accepting this as W has said over and over how she wishes I am going with her and how it is going to be hard. My Dean is supportive and suggested I could teach virtual but of course there is a lot of things to figure out.
We communicate better, which has led to overall improvements in intimacy (sex but also emotionally).
W got on antidepressants on her own request and so she is actively working on herself.
Right now I feel good about the path we are on and I am actually not too worried about her being on the other coast... but we definitely will have to keep working on ourselves.
